This girl hasn’t been feeling the barre or the bar for the last three days. It started last Friday– feeling tired, ready for a nap, and totally unmotivated. Fast-forward to Sunday, in my bed at 2pm and flat on my back.
But when you run your own business, there’s no way around it. You have to still be productive. It’s like those commercials– when you’re a mom, you don’t get a sick day. When you’re a business owner, you also don’t get a sick day.
Now I say that and I’m very lucky. I’ve had amazing co-workers at Pure Barre that have taken on my classes and subbed for me. I’m so incredibly grateful. My wonderful mom has helped with a few of my ballet classes and holds that business fort DOWN STRONG. But this is the key, I’ve still been productive but have had to delegate and acknowledge that I could not do it alone or all by myself.
Now I don’t condone trying to do work when you need to take care of yourself and rest and sleep, but if you have to, there’s a way to do that and still take care of the little things. These are my ways of dealing with the Sick Sads (the feeling of being useless when you’re feeling less than 100%):
- Prioritize. There may be some things on your to do list that you just don’t get done this week. It will be okay. The world will continue to spin. Prioritize what either you HAVE to get done or that you know will take very little energy to do. Those one or two things done will still help you feel productive, capable, and beneficial. For example, I sat in my bed on my laptop and made summer flyers for the studio this week. I also researched potential dates for next years’ production. Didn’t make a hard decision on anything, but even just prepping for those things, made me feel like I was contributing to the long-term goals of the business without over using my energy. It’s key to pay attention to the long-term NOT the short-term during times like this.
- Schedule. Put those other to do things that you can’t get done this week on your calendar for next week(or a couple days from now). Putting it on your calendar will make you feel less anxious about whether or not those things will get done eventually. Plus you know you’re a rockstar and are still making those things a priority.
- Set an Away Message on Your Email. If you see someone message you and you really want to respond, okay, but setting the away message allows people to know you are not ignoring them, but more importantly it gives YOU the knowledge that they will know you’re not ignoring them. Think about it, you get an away message when someone’s on vacation and you think “okay! they’ll get back to me eventually.” Otherwise, you don’t get a message and you’re like “HMPH. They don’t care.” So set the away message and then be free of it.
- TAKE CARE OF YOU. Once you’ve managed to let go of the to-do list, it’s time to take care of yourself. Close your eyes. Let it go. When you’re sick, you are your number one priority. Close your eyes. Even if it’s 15 minutes. You can do it. Then make tea. Eat soup. Take a bath. Keep your fluids going. If you’re a mom, forget folding the laundry. Run the dishwasher, you don’t have to put them away right away. Leave it for tomorrow. After all, tomorrow is anothah day.
- Save your energy for what you HAVE to do. We’re human. Life doesn’t stop for a few days, we have to keep going in some way, shape, or form. So change the pace. Just pick the things that you need to save your energy for and only do those things. Answer or don’t answer that phone call. Text or don’t answer that text. Teach or don’t teach that class. Go or don’t go to the store. Ask or don’t ask for help. Reschedule that dinner date. But the key is YOU. You HAVE to only do what is right for you. You are the priority. You can’t put anyone else’s oxygen mask on unless you put your’s on first.
So finally, I’m drinking coffee again after 3 days, which if you know me, no coffee = SOMETHING IS SERIOUSLY WRONG. And I’ve survived. It’s taken me a long time to get to this point. The control freak in me would never stop. Would never ask for that class off. Wouldn’t want to put someone else out for having to help me. But that only left me sicker. That doesn’t say it’s still not against what I like to do, to have to ask for help. To take those extra hours in the bed. Those things make me feel lazy, but that’s a feeling, and the TRUTH is that only YOU can take care of you.